3 Ways to Calm Down When You’re Stressed TF Out
How do you deal with stress?
My therapist asked me that question early in our journey together. Before responding, I sat with it and rolled the thought around like a block ice cube in a glass. "How do I deal with stress?" didn't seem like the right question to answer. The underlying question stumped me: "How does stress deal with me?"
You see, for years, I kind of let stress bully me. It'd roll up on me when I least expected it in varying amounts and "take my stuff" bit by bit. One day, my amount of free time might've been shortened. Another day, my money might've been funny. In another instant, I might've experienced physical reactions from something happening in the world.
By the time I realized I was stressed out, several things might've gone missing. And I'd be there, scrounging to figure things out before totally breaking down. This had happened so often and for so long that I didn't remember how this cycle started. Worse, I knew I couldn't stop it on my own. It'd taken a life of its own and was on its way to taking over mine.
Since becoming intentional about my healing and development, stress isn't the bully it once was. It still creeps up unexpectedly here and there, but I have learned to spot it down the street before it gets to my house. I am still learning how to see things clearer and use my voice during these times.
Can you relate to this? Does this sound familiar?
I'll just shoot from the hip. Stress is a motherfucker. A symptom of systemic issues. A response to trauma. A silent killer, too. While it is normal to experience stress (all stress isn't bad, either), it is important that we learn how to manage it so it won't overtake us.
Here are a 3 easy techniques to help you quickly navigate stressful, non-life-threatening encounters.
1. Remember that stress is temporary.
At the moment, it might feel like it is all-consuming. Remind yourself that the situation will pass eventually. Release the need to know when it will end while trying to remain optimistic that it will end. Remind yourself that you will get through the moment.
2. Be honest with yourself about your feelings.
Even though the moment is temporary, you are still allowed to acknowledge the stress you feel. Share your stressful moments with people you trust, as they might be able to help you manage the load or at least provide a safe space for you.
3. Breathe.
Deep breathing is often overlooked. I mean, we kind of take it for granted, right?! There IS something to it, though. If you need a quick refocus, start by taking slow breaths in and out. Begin to breathe deeply. On your inhale, imagine yourself surrounded by a white light. On your exhale, imagine yourself surrounded by warmth. This technique helps many people feel safe, protected, and centered, and can be done in about 5 minutes.
So, how do you deal with stress? Do you need help in this area?
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